Relationship Help - Entitlement versus Expectation

Let’s contrast entitlement versus expectation. No question there can be entitled expectations, but let’s attempt to tease out some fine points around each. Entitlement is always toxic. It comes with arrogance and pride, selfishness and laziness. Entitlement asks nothing of what is best about each of us. Entitlement is operating under the delusion that you deserve something you have not yet earned, whereas hope and expectation comes is born out of faith and belief.  

Entitlement says, “You owe me. Give me what I want now!”  

Expectation says, “I’m counting on you to keep your promises and commitments. I’m depending on you.”  

Entitled people think they have rights to something just because, therefore entitlement takes advantage of people. I’ve seen people who operate in entitlement use others rather than build relationships. Entitled feelings, thoughts, and perspectives actually tear...

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12 Ways to Create Lasting Love

I will use the six colors from the artist’s color wheel which is the foundation of the Primary Colors Personality Insight tools to help you understand twelve things, that if you understand them, will help you create long-lasting love.

1. Never take your partner for granted.

This may sound obvious, but you can't imagine how many people don’t choose to learn how to love themselves and their partner better before it’s too late. I always tell people not to wait until things are terrible, or when your partner is done with a relationship and wants to end it. 'No relationship is perfect' shouldn't be used as a rationalization for complacency.  If you are feeling disconnected, that is the time to take a positive step toward each other. People have different tolerances, needs and desires depending on their personality. How much do you understand who you are? How well do you believe you understand your partner? King Solomon tells us that “With all thy getting, get...

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Self-betrayal: Is it the root of all evil?

Will Smith, an actor I enjoy, was incensed over celebrity gossip Web site articles that he said misinterpreted a December 25, 2007 remark he made in a Scottish newspaper about Adolf Hitler. Since 2007 misinterpretation, or words twisted to make a political statement have only gotten worse. There seems to be little grace these days and what can be misinterpreted, depending on your political leanings, will be misinterpreted by your enemies. It used to be that our enemies were people who wanted to destroy freedom of speech but now, enemies are simply people who disagree with your speech.

The quote Smith said was misinterpreted "Even Hitler didn't wake up going, 'let me do the evilest thing I can do today.' I think he woke up in the morning and using twisted, backward logic, he set out to do what he thought was 'good,'” originated from a story published Saturday, December 23, 2007, in the Daily Record.  

I think Smith, in his attempt to make a statement about what he obviously...

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