Let’s contrast entitlement versus expectation. No question there can be entitled expectations, but let’s attempt to tease out some fine points around each. Entitlement is always toxic. It comes with arrogance and pride, selfishness and laziness. Entitlement asks nothing of what is best about each of us. Entitlement is operating under the delusion that you deserve something you have not yet earned, whereas hope and expectation comes is born out of faith and belief.
Entitlement says, “You owe me. Give me what I want now!”
Expectation says, “I’m counting on you to keep your promises and commitments. I’m depending on you.”
Entitled people think they have rights to something just because, therefore entitlement takes advantage of people. I’ve seen people who operate in entitlement use others rather than build relationships. Entitled feelings, thoughts, and perspectives actually tear...
Many couples come to the Relationship Help Resort in distress. Their relationships are sick, and some, nearly dead. They are angry, frustrated, and confused, and they have tried everything they know how to do, but simply don't have the answers they need. The main artery has been cut in the lifeline of their relationship and they can’t seem to stop the bleeding. When I begin my questioning to understand what went wrong I always find that they have stopped giving one another the respect and consideration they each feel they deserve.
The woman might say, “I work so hard to please my family. I cook, and clean, and care for their needs and no one even says thank you.”
The husband’s response goes something like this. “Why should we thank her? She is simply doing her job.”
Or the wife comes in complaining that her husband doesn’t do anything around the house. His argument is, “He can never do it to her...