Let’s contrast entitlement versus expectation. No question there can be entitled expectations, but let’s attempt to tease out some fine points around each. Entitlement is always toxic. It comes with arrogance and pride, selfishness and laziness. Entitlement asks nothing of what is best about each of us. Entitlement is operating under the delusion that you deserve something you have not yet earned, whereas hope and expectation comes is born out of faith and belief.  

Entitlement says, “You owe me. Give me what I want now!”  

Expectation says, “I’m counting on you to keep your promises and commitments. I’m depending on you.”  

Entitled people think they have rights to something just because, therefore entitlement takes advantage of people. I’ve seen people who operate in entitlement use others rather than build relationships. Entitled feelings, thoughts, and perspectives actually tear...

I will use the six colors from the artist’s color wheel which is the foundation of the Primary Colors Personality Insight tools to help you understand twelve things, that if you understand them, will help you create long-lasting love.

1. Never take your partner for granted.

This may sound obvious, but you can't imagine how many people don’t choose to learn how to love themselves and their partner better before it’s too late. I always tell people not to wait until things are terrible, or when your partner is done with a relationship and wants to end it. 'No relationship is perfect' shouldn't be used as a rationalization for complacency.  If you are feeling disconnected, that is the time to take a positive step toward each other. People have different tolerances, needs and desires depending on their personality. How much do you understand who you are? How well do you believe you understand your partner? King Solomon tells us that “With all thy getting, get...

Many couples come to the Relationship Help Resort in distress. Their relationships are sick, and some, nearly dead. They are angry, frustrated, and confused, and they have tried everything they know how to do, but simply don't have the answers they need. The main artery has been cut in the lifeline of their relationship and they can’t seem to stop the bleeding. When I begin my questioning to understand what went wrong I always find that they have stopped giving one another the respect and consideration they each feel they deserve. 

The woman might say, “I work so hard to please my family. I cook, and clean, and care for their needs and no one even says thank you.” 
 
The husband’s response goes something like this. “Why should we thank her? She is simply doing her job.”

Or the wife comes in complaining that her husband doesn’t do anything around the house. His argument is, “He can never do it to her...